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Guys are wired differently. Love is sex. Ya just have ta know how to play them and they'll love you forever, even though it just seems like sex to you. Wild sex is a healthy relationship.

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I do say I would have to disagree. This doesn't always have to do with "how a guy's mind works..." The first impression a guy gets about a girl is based on the outside before they even get to know what's on the inside.

So how do you dress when you go out with your friends with potential to meet guys? How much gaping cleavage is there? How tight are your pants? The self-image that you might be portraying on te outside may contradict what's actually on the inside.

If a guy looks at you and the first thing he thinks is "Daaaaammmn that girl can't WAIT to get Plum Plopped" then that's what you're going to get. And those are the esiest ones to get because, yes, most guys, not all, have a dirt bag mentality. But be patient. they are out there, and they're dying to find someone like you.

So wait for a guy to laugh with you without having to look at you. If he's laughing with you and is facing you all the time, he's just waiting for you to throw your head forward laughing so he can check out your centerfold, cleavage, etc.

Hope tis helps a little.

Thanks,

- PCFG (Providing Confidence For Generations)

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haha thanks for the advice, but i'm not even talking about going out I'm sayin a lazy day in the dorm in sweatpants and a sweatshirt and every guy i talk to is still tryin to get in my pants i could be like deathly ill (exaggeration) and still have a guy tryin to hook up with me.. thats why i muttr'd that

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haha thanks for the advice, but i'm not even talking about going out I'm sayin a lazy day in the dorm in sweatpants and a sweatshirt and every guy i talk to is still tryin to get in my pants i could be like deathly ill (exaggeration) and still have a guy tryin to hook up with me.. thats why i muttr'd that

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Ah... Well I guess it's good to feel like shit and still look good... :o)

- PCFG

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I have to say that #2 is right on the money. May I ask if you always wears sweats or have you been known to show the cleavage in class from time to time? If so, yup, that's what they'll remember.

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Or, maybe you're just that hot... who knows? If only this site allowed photos!

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ok well @ #6 lets just say its not something thats easily hid, but i do tend to wear more sweatshirts and jeans more often than not, granted i do look nice most of the time but i dont try to get the attention

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I bet your sweatshirts don't cover your midsection all the way. You can probably see your lower back while you're sitting at your seat in class or something.

If you don't what a guy to think of you in bed as the first though, then the only thing that should be showing is ankles, hands, arms, neck, face, and hair.

If they can have a chance to imagine putting their hand on that part of your skin and think about the position they have to be in with you in order to do that, that's when you're going to lead them right where you don't want them to be.

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id have to say i dont see the point in a sweatshirt that doesn't cover you, and i usually were decently large hoodies for the comfort of it...

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Heh. I know what you mean. Some just have that "gift". You're probably just too nice.

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Ummmm none of you are helping the question that the girl asked. I get what she means. Some days I just wish I could call up a guy friend and snuggle up watch a movie.. I have a few of those buuuuut - 95% of guys would be like mmm spooning and then try and get sexual

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I think what you see is what you get with 18-21 year old males. Girls - just expect them to be pigs.

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#16 you hit it right on the head!! that's totally what I mean... I don't wanna have to worry about pushing a guy away because he doesnt understand by snuggling i mean like cuddling not ok we'll snuggle for ten minutes then here comes the sexual stuff...

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#16 you hit it right on the head!! that's totally what I mean... I don't wanna have to worry about pushing a guy away because he doesnt understand by snuggling i mean like cuddling not ok we'll snuggle for ten minutes then here comes the sexual stuff...

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I wonder if being up front about it would help?

Lay out the law before the snuggling even begins. If he's a dickhead and all he wants to do is tweet your tart, then when you tell him: "This is cuddling time only, don't pull any stupid sexual shit cuz that's not what I'm looking for" he'll only do one thing or the other. Agree with you, or get upset about it and most likely leave.

Might be an easier way to weed them out before being dissappointed once again.

Just an idea to try... no guarantees or anything.

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that is veryyy good advice, i guess i might have to just stop thinking they all know what snuggling REALLY means and tell them what my version of snuggling is.

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because for the most part they are animals. did i say that?

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They think more about there penis urges rather then snuggling. If you said "Lets just go straight to sex" They wouldn't have any problem with that at all. If they had a choice the whole relationship would just be sex, sex, and more sex.

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i like cuddling and im a guy...i like to do it when we wake up in the morning or late at night. I enjoy it cuz its relaxing especially in winter. Not so much summer. Summer im too friggin horny all the time, must be the heat. Damn hormones... I also have sex moods too. Usually between after the movie and before goin to bed. But if she asks me to cuddle i will so long as im not in a bad mood.

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Stay with any of them long enough & they'll quit that shit. Then you'll wonder what the hell you did to make them so distant.

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mm see theres the issue, I don't think I should have to put out in order to get a guy to cuddle with me... specially if its possible I'm gonna date one of these people. I don't want them to think I'm easy and I also don't wanna do something with them and once they got what they wanted they were done.. It would just be nice if i could say hey wanna come over snuggle and watch a movie and not have a guy interpret it as hey wanna come over have sex and watch a movie... i know not every guy is like that but it certainly seeeemss like it.

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Why would you not want to have sex? And if you want to snuggle, why not with a female friend?

This topic could easily be turned around: Why do all girls always want everything BUT sex?

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lol yea those girls hardly want sex but when they do, you better give it to em because if you dont your gonna miss out on something crazy/ fun...aaannnd your def gonna sleep on the couch and not earn cuddle time for a looong time.

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It's not rare at all. You just can't find them because they're not the guys that come on to you, buy you drinks and end up dating you within days of meeting you. They're the guys that become your friends, listen to you and talk. It takes a lot more effort to get a guy like that and without realizing it you probably have a couple that you count as friends. There's probably even one or two that would want to date you but you never show interest and instead they watch, aggravated by your choice in shallow guys. These are the loyal, loving guys that take more than a wink and giggle to catch. This coming from one of them.

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I think it's funny that right after I posted this muttr I found a guy who doesnt try to attack me when I wanna snuggle... hmmm interesting!

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Put out, he'll fall asleep, you can snuggle and watch your damn movie... When he wakes, feed him!
Now you've made a male friend... Easy!

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Why does a female have to snuggle with another female? What if girls don't enjoy the company of bitchy girls? And why does it seem that girls have to "put out" and then feed men? This isn't the 1920's, feed yourself and watch porn. Try and be considerate for once. You're all giving men a horrible name, selfish pigs.

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The point of this muttr is because I'm irritated that every guy I seem to hang out with tries to get with me rather then just be a snuggle buddy.. If I'm not givin you the wrong idea what makes you think I wanna get with you... If I say hey lets snuggle I don't mean hey lets fuck.

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Because they are men and they think differently. The sooner you realize that the better. No right - no wrong - it just is. Can't always be about him - can't always be about you. You both have to care about making each other happy. So, to answer your question, you will be irritated for a long time if you want them to change. And I don't think that they mean to irritate , they just don't have the same emotions and needs that you have. The best you can do is to try to explain how you feel. Hopefully, he'll snuggle because that's what will make you happy. And sometimes you'll have to - you know - to make him happy, too.

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Find a gay male friend. That is only way this will work.

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find a guy with a baby penis.

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Fact of life: Spooning leads to forking.

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go to a catholic schoool

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#35 and #37 are spot on.

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clearly no one has faith in men these days hahaha

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So many comments. So many people who are very, very wrong.

I am a dude. I have a fully functioning penis, and I am fully heterosexual. Cuddling is fucking amazing, and while a good bedroom romp can be gratifying it would feel shallow without, you know, both parties actually giving a damn.

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Probably has to do with your choice in men. If you prescribe to a 'type', you have no reason to complain about all the guys you date being x or not being y.

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I am the original poster... and i have dated the strangest variety of men.. I don't really have a type... which is why I posted this.. haha It is soo damn hard to find a guy who just wants to cuddle... granted I have found one and so far all we've done is snuggle.. but I guess I'll have to see how long that lasts...

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they attack you like animals? i think your in the wrong part of the world or something, thats weird.

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don't take it so literal.

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heres a list of what women want: personality, nice body, smart, polite, outgoing, strong, funny, great with kids, nice hair, good hygiene, athletic...you know, perfect like in movies and womens magazines. Heres a list of what men want: hot body whose not crazy.

THE STANDARDS ARE TOO HIGH!!! CUT US SOME SLACK!!!

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that is so stereotype i never said thats what i wanted in a guy. i just want someone who I get along with that Im attracted to and someone who doesnt want just sex. yeah sex is great but I need to have an emotional thing as well and sometimes i wud rather just cuddle then have sex.

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what is cuddle?

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Probably because your hot or have big titties.

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I guess you will never knowwwww

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?what is cuddle?

Conversation regression. Simpsons Fans will remember Ralph's "what's a battle?"

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someone give me an answer... why would men be wired differently than women? why do men tend to "roam" while women nurture? we're all animals. and like animals we must keep a population.

just giving an opinion.

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it's probably because you're ugly and they'd rather flip you over than to give two shits about you

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I know who the poster is who wrote this and I would have to say number 54 is so wrong

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Shiit ill snuggle with you

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Snuggling is nice but being attacked is funner!

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its funny to read back on this now that ive had a boyfriend for almost a year now, sometimes the being attacked part is nice, cuz the snuggling always comes after ;) hahaha, but its nice not having to deal with the annoyance of the attempted attack of every guy i hang out with...

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ok if all you want is a snuggle buddy get a gay friend otherwise you are just a tease.

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Well if a guy always expects a girl to have sex with them clearly they're just a slut cuz when a girl says snuggle we dont always mean sex so maybe guys should just stop being pigs and we wouldnt have this problem. a girl shouldnt always be expected to have sex with a guy when sometimes all we want is to just relax. We're not made just for sex so I wouldnt say we're just "teases" cuddling doesnt have to be sexual.

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Thats the way men were designed, Uolyzzab... If they were shy little bitches, the human race would not exist. 200,000 years of evolution in the making. ;)

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I'm a homo!!! You can call me if you want!

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Not all men are animals, I'm not. I'm not gay, and I'd love to just hold around the love of my life... I don't need sex that often... a few times a week is what i'd want, but I wouldn't need it... wouldn't need sex each week at all... I just want a girl to hold around, and to love...

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What straight guy wants to cuddle a girl but not have sex with her? He wouln't want to cuddle her in the first place unless he was attracted to her, ya see my point? You don't usually get one without the other. Go get a hug from your daddy or something. Grown men don't cuddle and want nothing more...duh.

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My fiance is that way actually.

I tend to be the one wanting sexytimes after cuddling actually. Had to stop doing that though, because he really likes cuddling for the sake of closeness and cuddling... and was getting sad when I would "ruin" it by feeling him up.

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I want to snuggle up to but I'd fall asleep, is that OK?

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