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that saying is very true. can't deny that for a minute!

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Both of you are wrong.

It has nothing to do with that. If she's played you so well that many times, and you've known about some, then there is DEFINITELY other guys she was fooling around with that you didn't even know about.

She wants you back because it's easier for her to fuck other guys when she has you. Why? Because a lot of guys just want to get laid... and they don't want an leech. So, they would LOVE to bang a girl that is taken! So when she starts flirting with them and whatever, she tells them she has a b/f... and guys being guys won't respect it if she's still flirting with them. So they'll continue. They'll bang the piss out of each other and leave each other because of other obligations and probably won't speak for a while or ever again.

So she says she wants you back because she realizes she can't get her slutsex fulfilled when she's single because she'll run into guys that think she's going to want to hang onto them if they nut her. That is the ONLY reason she wants you back.

I am speaking from experience with a girl that did this to me also.

And if you don't want to take MY word for it... just go ask Tiger Woods.

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How are you so sure that the original poster is a guy talking about a girl? No where do they state that...

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I'm the original poster and I'm a girl.. by the way. The one that likes to play is a guy... he's done me wrong...

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I did everything right with him, perhaps even when I shouldn't have. I NEVER cheated, no matter how many times he did.. I was ALWAYS there for him, even if he was saying the worst things in the world to me- if he needed something I was there. I love him with all of my heart, and I always will... I am confused with myself.. not understanding if I really did do something wrong the reason I got treated like that, but he continuously says that it wasn't me.. so I don't know what to think. He is now with someone else, and begging for me back. Why did he wait so long to discover that I was actually good to him? He tries harder to make me happy now then what he did when we were together for so long.. I'm lost and confused, any advice??

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This is your classic case of a "scumbag". How girls continually fall for guys like this is beyond me, but I see it all of the time...

You probably didn't do anything wrong... he just wanted to "play the field" and once he realized the "field" wasn't as fun or as exciting as he thought, reluctantly he turns back to what he knows is a sure thing. You.

Just be careful... I know you probably won't care if what I've said is right or not as girls tend to deal with these things way more emotionally then guys, and this is what gets them so hurt all of the time. Good luck.

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I posted #2. The reason I assume it was a guy talking about a girl is because girls are not likely to put up with that sort of shit even ONCE! In which case, my apologies. Regardless, you cannot have a relationship without trust. It's not worth your time... seriously. You think he's going to stop?

He will... for maybe a year. But cheating IS a proven addiction. There are adrenaline and pheromones firing off in the body when someone cheats on their other half. It's a pretty big rush.

When the pheromones start to dwindle away because it's becoming every day nature, he will get a mistress. This is considered g/f #2. He keeps her from you, she knows about you, but his story to her is that he's going to leave you for her. So then, he's able to cheat on her and get his rush/high that he needs because cheating on you just isn't doing it for him anymore.

You're into a never ending cycle. I would get out while you can and while you still have your dignity.

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I'm in the same situation. But he changed 'didn't know what he had till I was gone'. Were amazing now :)

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a leopard doesn't change it's spots.

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Jeez. There's lot of fish in the sea. Just because he's the one interested in you RIGHT NOW doesn't mean there won't be more later. More often that not, you don't even notice the others because you're so consumed with this "one guy".

And honestly, it only gets worse as you're financially tied, have kids and grow old. You should start the rest of your life high on the mountain so when it starts to crash you still have a decent vantage.

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Run! You are fooling yourself if you think for one minute he's going to EVER be faithful. He may sounds like he means it and may even believe it himself, but unless he gets serious counseling, he'll never change. And don't wait around for him to go thru couseling cuz odds are it won't work and you'll have wasted even more time. And DO NOT get financially involved or have kids with him!

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Thanks everyone, I really appreciate all of the advice!!! Hopefully I can find myself a wonderful guy!! Keep your fingers crossed for me!! lol :)

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