Posted by: Anonymous on 11/05/09 @ 08:56:55am
Sigh.... a place to vent and type about how I feel. I thought i was over her but 7 mths later she messages me. We chatted on line for an hour and we laugh and reminice about the past and things we used to do. Im half way around the world and she tells me that she would fedex me a favourite dish that she cooks. She tells me that she'll cry if she runs in to me. I thought i was over her but i guess not cause she still filled the emptiness in my heart in that hour and made me shed a few tears. Last nite, we chatted again after countless nights of waiting for her to come online. Again, we joked around, reminice about the past, laughing and i shed a few tears. I offered to buy her a ticket to come travel with me and she said she'll sleep on it. Am i crazy thinking that theres another chance on love with us? Or Im just reading this in too deep? Love drives people crazy or maybe its just me. Thanks for reading.
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My friend, that is fucking life.
And I mean it. I'm exactly in your position right now. I'm in Paris, I broke up with my ex before coming here, she's in North America. We lived together, so my things are still at our place, where she still lives. We're still good friends and we've known each other for like 7 years now... I've known her for all of her adult life.
So we still chat, it still hurts, I still feel all these great moments, you know.
But remember, there's a reason why you guys broke up. You need to remember that.
Now if you want to come back with her, fine, but you need to accept that what has happen will happen again. If you accept that (honestly, you might feel like you accept it, but it's just your heart that is playing a trick on you), then fine, go at it again. Love does not just happen once. This is not hollywood.
But if you decide not to go at it again, know that... it will always hurt. You will aways feel something. When I see my first ex (it's been 7 years now), I still have a little something.
Go for it, or don't. But don't try to hide from it, that is not humanly possible (unless she raped you and forced you to have sex with a midget).
And I mean it. I'm exactly in your position right now. I'm in Paris, I broke up with my ex before coming here, she's in North America. We lived together, so my things are still at our place, where she still lives. We're still good friends and we've known each other for like 7 years now... I've known her for all of her adult life.
So we still chat, it still hurts, I still feel all these great moments, you know.
But remember, there's a reason why you guys broke up. You need to remember that.
Now if you want to come back with her, fine, but you need to accept that what has happen will happen again. If you accept that (honestly, you might feel like you accept it, but it's just your heart that is playing a trick on you), then fine, go at it again. Love does not just happen once. This is not hollywood.
But if you decide not to go at it again, know that... it will always hurt. You will aways feel something. When I see my first ex (it's been 7 years now), I still have a little something.
Go for it, or don't. But don't try to hide from it, that is not humanly possible (unless she raped you and forced you to have sex with a midget).
#1 Anonymous 11/05/09 @ 11:20:58am Advice
#1, what have you got against midgets?
#2 Anonymous 11/05/09 @ 05:25:09pm Comment
+1 @ #1
lol @ #2
1. I read in a book about Judaism, that in their religion, a married couple takes a month each year that they spend apart. And now, you probably know why that is -- when you spend time apart, it creates and amplifies the desire to be together. When you spend all those years together, practically listening to her/him breath, it feels like she/he is always on your back. You begin to feel like you're suffocating. So, separation has a very healing quality to it.
2. As #1 mentioned, although you are still in love with some of the elements in your ex-partner, that relationship caused you to expand. And so, there might still be some aspects where you feel she cannot live up to your expectations.
Which is natural. I think the idea of having one partner for life is rather archaic. The person we are at age 20, is not the same person we are at age 40 or 60. So what is to say, what we desire in a partner, is going to be the same? And so, I think it's natural for a relationship to end, and for a new relationship to replace it.
3. I just heard of a case where a couple went for a divorce. They couldn't stand each other. A few months apart, and they're back together. And she tells me -- he's completely changed. All those things that bothered me about him -- GONE! So once again, separation (or rather, time alone where you can figure out who you are) has healing properties. Maybe you do want to get back together again.
On the other hand, if you're already living in another city, or another country -- maybe that's exactly what you wanted to prevent. You knew that you might pussy out in the future, and change your mind, so you subconsciously decided to get as far away from her as possible, so you wouldn't be able to go back.
That's my ramblings. It's up to you to decide which story you will tell.
lol @ #2
1. I read in a book about Judaism, that in their religion, a married couple takes a month each year that they spend apart. And now, you probably know why that is -- when you spend time apart, it creates and amplifies the desire to be together. When you spend all those years together, practically listening to her/him breath, it feels like she/he is always on your back. You begin to feel like you're suffocating. So, separation has a very healing quality to it.
2. As #1 mentioned, although you are still in love with some of the elements in your ex-partner, that relationship caused you to expand. And so, there might still be some aspects where you feel she cannot live up to your expectations.
Which is natural. I think the idea of having one partner for life is rather archaic. The person we are at age 20, is not the same person we are at age 40 or 60. So what is to say, what we desire in a partner, is going to be the same? And so, I think it's natural for a relationship to end, and for a new relationship to replace it.
3. I just heard of a case where a couple went for a divorce. They couldn't stand each other. A few months apart, and they're back together. And she tells me -- he's completely changed. All those things that bothered me about him -- GONE! So once again, separation (or rather, time alone where you can figure out who you are) has healing properties. Maybe you do want to get back together again.
On the other hand, if you're already living in another city, or another country -- maybe that's exactly what you wanted to prevent. You knew that you might pussy out in the future, and change your mind, so you subconsciously decided to get as far away from her as possible, so you wouldn't be able to go back.
That's my ramblings. It's up to you to decide which story you will tell.
#3 Anonymous 11/05/09 @ 11:10:21pm Advice
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